I have a dirty confession to make. I’m bored of the positive self-talk. Not that it’s not useful, not that it’s not helpful and powerful, but I feel sometimes, especially in the cycle of my blog feed, that I get the same message again and again in a little bite-sized nugget. That’s all well and good, but I want to dive deeper. I don’t want to just tell you your belly is beautiful (it is) I don’t want to just tell you to fuck shaving if you want to (let your fur fly!), I want to affect real, radical change. The kind of change that only happens when you put the pastel colored quotes down and do the damn thing.
How do we get there? By doing. You’ve read the self-love pieces, you’ve cried over how true and raw and communal your suffering is, our suffering is, and you know in your head and in your heart, that you’re enough, even if you have to whisper it to yourself, or get that pastel poster above your mirror. Those are good, baby steps. But to make it stick, you have to do the work.
Wanting is not enough, thinking and reading is not enough. Practice through doing is. Check in with your intentions, even if it’s just how you want to be, and use that to give yourself the courage to do. In short,
“If I am truly ____, I can ____.”
When I started learning burlesque, sometimes I would hide under my covers, thinking about how I was the biggest and clumsiest girl in class. But then I would think., “If I am truly curious, I can learn. If I am truly moving, I can dance.”
So, when you think about your rocking body (you, yes you!), your side business, your artistic pursuits, and the weight of self-doubt creeps back in, make your statement.
If we are truly fearless, we can change the world.
I sincerely believe that, even on my bad days, and it fuels me enough to silence my self-doubt, stand up, and get dirty again.
What’s holding back your beauty?
If you are truly __, you CAN __!