Recently, the ever lovely Shan de Leers and I were talking about body image and specifically bellies. I love bellies. To me, they’re quintessentially feminine and remind me of classical statues of goddesses and mythic damsels. Shan was a little frustrated about hers and said, “I love what I see on stage. I get photos and it looks good, but I’m having a hard time with it in my normal life.”
To which I responded, “That’s because you have stage abs. You have the engagement and awareness in your body required for performing. But offstage, you need a belly, with which to eat ice cream and be soft.”
We’re taught that we must be “on” all the time. You can’t just look like you, you can’t ever let your facade slip. But that’s a lie. We are multi-faceted rhinestones.
Always be your best on “stage”. Whether you’re doing a free gig or a corporate blowout event. Put on your war paint and armor, and get your body ready for action, honed and prepared to deliver.
But "offstage", it’s okay to be a normal human. I always get a giggle when new ladies coming in the studio are shocked that the messy-haired, makeup-free lady standing before them is the same woman they saw with hair to the heavens wearing only pasties and a merkin on stage last weekend.
Glamor is great, but it can easily be boring. We need grit too.