"I spent years being afraid of my own thighs. I never wore shorts or short skirts for fear that someone would see my cellulite or notice that my thighs jiggled when I walked. I quit dance in college, my favorite high school sport, because I grew tired of being in the back of the group – not because I was a bad dancer, but because I was “too short and too fat” to be in front. When a friend convinced me to attend a burlesque show, I was curious but cautious. The American art form involves a performer entering the stage in a lavish costume, and through storytelling, dance and sometimes circus tricks, removing layers of costuming to a final reveal of panties and pasties. I like to call it lowbrow art for highbrow people."Read the full piece on their website.
We've reached the final week of our #thankfulshowgirl challenge! Last week's Drive and Determination posts were full of goals set, met, and reminding us of the pleasures of the journey.
This final week, let's focus back in to our selves. What about yourself are you thankful for? Your winning smile? Your ability to always find a parking space? Silly or serious, let's get grateful.
As always, hashtag #thankfulshowgirl and #delinquentdebs on social media in your posts!
We've reached the third week of #thankfulshowgirl! Last week's Comfort & Care theme was tougher for me than week 1's Community was. I don't always take the best care for myself, so it was interesting to see each day what came up for me. I loved seeing posts on everything from naps to video games!
This week, we're focusing on drive and determination. What are you thankful for that makes you want to be better? Maybe it's your trainer at the gym, your meal planning skills, your ability to not take things too seriously, what is it that you're thankful for about the journey, not just the outcome?
As always, make sure your social posts have #thankfulshowgirl and #delinquentdebs! Can't wait to read all about it!
We just finished the first week of #thankfulshowgirl and I'm floored by the thoughtful responses I've seen so far. Lots of love for producers, mentors, family members, and a few pets too! Thank you for being part of the challenge, and search #thankfulshowgirl on Facebook and Instagram for all the goodness so far!
Moving on to week 2, let's focus in a little on Comfort & Care. We're talking your afternoon cup of tea, your garden, bath rituals, whatever gives you comfort and shows care for yourself and those around you.
Thank you for joining me on this challenge. I can't wait to see all your gorgeous posts.
I’ve been a bit down this spring, feeling scattered and uninspired, and feeling glum, found myself peeking over the fence at people I admired who had a “happy hustle.” What I saw is what I already knew, but forgot. The people that I admire for their fulfillment in their ambition almost always have a practice of gratitude. Which is markedly different from just saying “thanks” and running to the next thing. It’s really taking the time to stop and breathe in all the goodness, even, and especially, when things go to shit.
If you’re already rolling your eyes at me, I get it! Gratitude journaling certainly doesn’t sound sexy, but it can be if you’re doing it right. It’s also been scientifically proven to improve your physical and psychological health. Plus it takes less than 5 minutes each day.
Want to join me? Let’s cheer each other on and keep ourselves accountable together. For the next 4 weeks (May 1-28) let’s show off our thankful showgirl selves. Each week has a theme, and each day, pick one thing (from the prompts below or follow your own!), and write 3-5 sentences about why you’re grateful. You can use a journal or simply a notes app on your phone, but be sure to actually write it out, instead of just thinking about it.
- Week 1: Community - family, friends, a lover, a mentor (known or stalked on Instagram), someone who hired you, your favorite character on TV, pets count too!
- Week 2: Comfort and Care - eg, your daily cup of tea, your bathtub, dancing in your underwear
- Week 3: Drive and Determination - that song that gets you through a long day, finally accomplishing a goal, beating your best time running a mile, a difficult time that helped you grow
- Week 4: Self - your winning smile, your easy way with words, a strong core (physically or otherwise!), that killer orgasm you had last week
If you miss a day, just get back on it the next day, no judgement, only love.
Share your gratitude online with #thankfulshowgirl and tag Delinquent Debutantes! And at the studio, add your thankful thoughts on the chalkboard door each week!
You are enough.Say it out loud. Look at yourself, in the eyes, in the mirror and say it. Say it as if you believe it, even if you're not quite there. It's true. We spend so much time, energy and money "fixing our flaws" or trying to "lose those last five pounds." But, as one of my favorite short stories says, "What is left of a woman when her last five pounds are gone?"*
You have a right to take up space.You should eat healthy and workout and be a productive member of society, but you should do those things out of fullness, not out of lack. Lack begets lack. Fullness begets fullness. Let's stop operating from a point of fixing something that's broken, and start giving, to and from ourselves, because we're already whole. Full hearts and strong bodies,
*"When She is Old and I am Famous" by Julie Orringer
Yours in stage abs and ice cream belly,
To our future together,